Provide Opportunities for Failure

Every Wednesday I will post a practical wisdom thought or suggestion on marriage, parenting, or life.

The natural instinct for loving parents is to protect their child from pain and failures.  Certainly, success is really enjoyable, while failure is not as much fun and even somewhat painful.  Yet, it is true that your child and all of us learn more from setbacks than successes.

During your child’s formative years, you want your child to have failures and experience some anguish. So many activities throughout their life are competitive in nature, passing classes in school, getting into a trade school, being accepted to a college, or finding the right job.

Hence, allow your child to join sports teams like golf, volleyball, soccer, etc. as well as tryout for other school activities or programs.  Through participating in various pursuits, your child will hopefully experience a few successes along with some beneficial failures that thankfully may help your child become successful in life.  Childhood failures usually assist in building resiliency and strengthening character, and most important, make your child even more determined to never give up in life.

TODAY:  Begin finding a variety of activities where your child can compete in order to experience both successes and failures. 

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Handling Christmas Stress

Every Wednesday I will post a practical wisdom thought or suggestion on marriage, parenting, or life.

It is true that life without holidays can be overwhelming and stressful.  Today we may be thinking this is the most important Christmas ever and it has to be perfectHowever, what were three gifts you received last Christmas?  What do you and I really remember from past Christmases?  My point: Christmas won’t really matter one month from now, so relax and tell yourself, “This Christmas will be good enough.”  What we will remember is what we did with others.

I have several thoughts on handling Christmas and holiday stress:  be realistic and create memories of closeness; view the remaining Christmas and holiday season one day at a time; and make time for things you value.  When things don’t go quite right or turn out exactly as planned, maintain a sense of humor, laugh out loud, and look for positive aspects in the “closeness” facet of the holidays.

TODAY:  Create your own “Peace on Earth” and focus on glorifying God in Jesus Christ, family closeness, church celebrations, and adding value to others. (December 21, 2016)

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A Personal Goal: Be Agreeable and Cooperative

Every Wednesday I will post a practical wisdom thought or suggestion on marriage, parenting, or life.

How agreeable and cooperative are you?  Patience, compromise, being helpful, embracing the ordinary, simply saying “It is good enough,” are all qualities of an easygoing person. And more than intelligence, money, background, similar interests, etc. what creates a gratifying marriage are two spouses who are both agreeable and cooperative.

I understand that being easygoing is hard work for all of us.  Yet, when we are relaxed, laid back, pleasant, and courteous, we not only make our marriages happier we also improve our emotional and physical well-being.  On a daily basis, strive to be an accommodating, supportive person and spouse.

TODAY:  Find a book, podcast, CD, YouTube video, etc. for self-improvement in order to become a more agreeable and cooperative person and spouse.  (December 14, 2016)

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Three Healing Words: “I Am Sorry”

Every Wednesday I will post a practical wisdom thought or suggestion on marriage, parenting, or life.

Three essential healing words for all relationships are “I am sorry.”  Unfortunately, I estimate that in ninety percent of homes, those three soothing, restorative words are rarely used for repairing relationships. So saying those words, “I am sorry” may feel unfamiliar and even uncomfortable for most of us.

When we say “I am Sorry” we are either saying “I made a mistake” or “I was wrong.” Accepting responsibility for a fault is very hard for all of us because that requires humility. Without two spouses willing to say “I am sorry,” a fully satisfying marriage will be difficult.  However, when the phrase, “I am sorry” is used by both spouses the likelihood for life-long happiness will significantly improve.

TODAY:  The next time you make a mistake or hurt your spouse’s feelings, heal your relationship by speaking those remarkable healing words, “I AM SORRY.”

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