Focus On “Three” Daily Goals

On Wednesdays I will post a practical wisdom thought or suggestion on Marriage, Parenting, or Life.

Enjoy your life journey by having a purpose for living every single day.  To live with a purpose develop the habit of incorporating “Three Goals.”  The wonderful “Three Goals” to include in your daily routine are: 1) an attitude of gratitude, 2) small, achievable tasks, and 3) serving others.

First, each day recognize what blessings or positives happened even if those good things are very minor. Second, happiness comes from doing and we need to pinpoint what we accomplished each day. Third, Christ came to serve and we follow His footsteps when we serve family members or friends or even strangers.

TODAY:  As your day concludes, identify at least three things for which you are grateful, three small tasks you achieved, and three ways you served others.  (May 24, 2017)

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Judge But Never Be Judgmental

On Wednesdays I will post a practical wisdom thought or suggestion on Marriage, Parenting, or Life.

Judging is an important skill for a healthy life and marriage.  Judging is assessing or evaluating a situation, ourselves, or an important relationship for the sake of improvement.  However, being judgmental is not healthy because the intention is rooted in malice, resulting in arrogance or a pompous spirit just for the sake of feeling superior over someone else.

Hence, it is healthy to regularly judge our personal words and behaviors.  Likewise, in a marriage, a partner may at times assess a spouse or relationship if the goal for that evaluation is improvement.

For example, if a spouse is an alcoholic or has explosive anger, evaluating the situation may correct that unhealthy behavior.  Unfortunately, an alcoholic or raging spouse will often defend themselves by telling their partner, “You are being judgmental.”  However, such an appraisal is not being “judgmental” but instead only an assessment of those unhealthy behaviors with a genuine motive for improvement.

TODAY:  Let’s assess our personal actions, and if married, evaluate our relationship in order to recognize aspects that may need growth and development.  (May 17, 2017)

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Intimacy Leads To Oneness

On Wednesdays I will post a practical wisdom thought or suggestion on Marriage, Parenting, or Life.

In the Bible, God said “The two will become one.”  The “oneness” or intimacy goal is an essential ongoing process, never a destination.  In healthy marriages, the intimacy feeling regularly happens in a variety of ways:  emotionally, socially, sexually, recreationally, intellectually, physically through touch, sharing of one’s faith, etc. Unfortunately, for struggling couples the “oneness” is usually missing in more than one area of the relationship.

My future Marriage Book describes how to enhance the intimacy in all facets of a marriage.  For now, please evaluate the following intimacy aspects: Understanding and listening closely to your spouse; talking about your faith; enjoying time with other couples; having regular sexual intimacy; doing fun things together; and discussing meaningful topics.

TODAY:  Identify the number one area where you need to improve in order to enhance the “oneness” or intimacy within your marriage and then share that goal with your spouse so you can work together.

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